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My fifth grader tells me to **** off regularly
Old 05-02-2010, 05:18 AM
 
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I am venting..at wits end...please excuse spelling errors and run ons

I am a first year grade 5 teacher. I am in a PBIS school that using this program consistently across the board in every grade, in and out of the classroom. That is a plus. Although it is May , we finally got a guidance counselor. (yippi, but she can not do it all)

My priciple has her pluses, but she does not like to deal with negative behaviors or consequences. I feel the PBIS program is wonderful but has wholes. There is so much positive reinforcement but little consequences.

Ok..so that's the background

I have a little girl who is clinically depressed, and thanks to me is getting support outside of school and inside of the school. However her behavior is disruptive when she has out bursts. I also think she's OCD and has major anxiety so if I "look at her" the wrong way or someone touches her desk with a "dirty" hand she flips out and threatens to strangle me or other students. She has also threatened to stab her self in the eye with a pencil to get out of doing work. About 50% of the time she refuses to do work because she is afraid she will get it wrong. If I ask her if she needs my help or doesn't understand something, if she is in a bad mood she may tell me to f off or get the hell away. She has been in house suspended for hurting other students, work refusal , or being a danger to herself and others.

To top it off I have an inclusive classroom. I have 11 of 18 students on IEP and along with my depressive student I have an Ob Def. Dis. student who throws things or kicks things everytime I mark her PBIS behavior chart with a score she does not like. Or she shouts I hate this freaking school.

My principle has admitted that my classroom was not designed correctly. They did not take into account all the "personalities" or intense behaviors that about 5 of the kids have. She keeps telling me that next year will be different. But every year what ever teacher they hire for my class gets a lot of the "low" kids and behaviors.

I have very needy students who are not emotionally disturbed . Some at a first grade level (we do not have self contained in my building) I feel that because of these major behaviors I can not teach, I can not help other students who are needy. (my spec ed teacher has been there for 30 years and is busy. She does not stay in my classroom or help me diff. lessons ) I also have students who need a challenge who are not getting it.

I feel like a failure this year as a teacher. I feel like my lessons are so disjointed, not challenging enough, and I spend my whole prep filling out BPIS behavior slips to track behaviors, talking on the phone to parents (who usually don't care) and talking to behavior specialists. I am not perfect but I feel I have been as postive as possible and have followed all of their advice....

NOW WHAT?????? I have to pass students to grade 6 who do not do their work because they are emotionally disturbed. I don't know what to do. I don't even know how to cover the material that needs to be covered. I sometimes feel like an awful teacher because of this.


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Old 05-02-2010, 04:15 PM
 
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Jenn81,
I just went over to read your public profile and read what you wrote when you were working with 2nd graders. You are obviously a very caring, conscientious teacher who is discouraged because you got more than your share of students who should never have been placed in the same classroom. I am so sorry you are in this situation.

Is your school year almost over? I know you are worried about students passing right into 6th grade when you know they've not even done 5th grade work consistently - if at all, but what else can you do?

Please try not to be so hard on yourself. It sounds like some of your students are "beating" you up on a daily basis. You need to give yourself credit for what you do right.

You spend your valuable time calling parents who don't seem to care. You are doing your part. You cannot change how parents feel or react.

I don't understand why that poor unfortunate child is in a regular ed. classroom when she obviously needs professional help. I know I wouldn't want my child to be in class with someone who could be so dangerous.

If your school year is almost over, please just hang in there. I think your principal is trying to tell you that next year will be better. Hold onto that positive thought. In your public profile, you said how much you love teaching. Don't let this experience rob you of that love. Take good care of yourself, get plenty of sleep, and keep coming here for support.

Here's a cyber hug just for you.
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Old 05-02-2010, 04:39 PM
 
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Thanks for the encouraging words.

Yes last year I had a long term 2nd grade position for almost the full year. I loved it! I still get excited to teach, but just fed up too.

Anyways thanks for the words of encouragement. I use to think I was great with difficult behaviors, I think that was partly the reason why I was hired. So at times I am worried that my reputation will be the teacher who has an out of control classroom.

However, there still our lots of positive, fun moments that I will just have to remember on days when I feel like this.

Thanks =)
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I totally get where you are coming from. Though my class is not quite like yours i too have four of 29 on IEP, 6 ESL's and two behaviours. One of which causes the most problems. Calls me names, tells me I'm a racist, threatens to stab me with coke bottles, you name he has done it. Unfortunately there is not much that can be done. You do your best and try to relax. Stressing yourself out is not going to help, but i understand. Your students are such a reflection on you and you don't want them going off and the other teachers saying they don't know anything. Hope your year ends well.
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