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Old 04-21-2019, 06:42 AM
 
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Need some advice on this situation: On the last day of school, we'll have an end-of-the-year BBQ, at a nearby park.
We will be celebrating a teacher who is retiring and the parent community thinks this teacher is amazing! But in truth, the kids love the teacher because of all the games, movies, and no homework...faculty dislikes because this teacher is lazy and not a team player!

What is a good (professional) response when parents make comments?

Here is what has been said already to some colleagues at the Book Fair:
You're are losing the best teacher...the staff must be devastated...Your fearless leader is jumping ship...
They have no idea what actually has been going on for years, but I don't know if a smile will be enough.
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Old 04-21-2019, 06:47 AM
 
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You say something that is true: she will be missed. You aren't saying by whom.

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Old 04-21-2019, 07:17 AM
 
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Some day you will be retiring and the staff will have said many things about you to others. What would you prefer to hear? Perhaps a congratulations is all you need to say. Do not rain on this person's parade behind her back or to her face.
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Agree with PPs. I’m glad parents actually have something nice to say about a teacher. There’s way too much teacher bashing these days. You don’t have to say anything over the top, but you could say something like “yes we were lucky to have such a caring teacher” or something even simpler like smiling and nodding.
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Old 04-21-2019, 08:50 AM
 
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I hope she has many happy healthy retirement years
and in your head you can add that you wish those years had started earlier.


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Old 04-21-2019, 10:27 AM
 
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I agree with the others - just make honest, positive comments. There has to be something good you can say about her, so say that. Even, "The kids really loved her" and "She'll have a fun time in retirement".

They don't need to know what's been going on. In all reality, none of us really knows what goes on in each teacher's classroom - we're too busy teaching our own students! The same holds true with parents - they just know what they've been told. Let her leave with that reputation. It's the way we'd all want to leave.
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I agree with the other posters...
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This is not the time and place to judge what kind of teacher she was. And for all the appearances, I'm sure this teacher had to be accountable for producing the results and documentation that the rest of the staff did to be satisfactorily evaluated. If not, that is on your administration...

I agree with the "She will be missed." statement. I would probably say we wish her a long, happy and healthy retirement or something like that. Even,"Things will certainly be different without her here, and we are wishing her well, " would work. Or, just let the parents talk and nod your head.
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Everyone has pretty much I already said this but I wanted to say that I agree-no need to rain on her parade. If she's on her way out the door just say that she will be missed.

The truth is, she clearly made an impact on the kids' lives which is really what counts in the long run in my opinion.
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Old 04-22-2019, 09:18 AM
 
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Kids usually tell the parents what is going on in a classroom. Certainly if it is all fun and games. Eat some BBQ. Ask the teacher what it was like when she began teaching. Be happy this one is now out the door. It is the door step of summer so it has to be mostly positive and fun,
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Old 04-22-2019, 10:01 AM
 
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Say something nice and let it go.


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I hate to be a broken record but I agree with the others....say something nice and move on - she will be missed, she was truly one of a kind, etc - no need to bring up anything nasty at someone's retirement.
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Old 04-22-2019, 03:38 PM
 
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Quote:
What is a good (professional) response when parents make comments?
"The kids will certainly miss her!"
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Old 04-22-2019, 03:59 PM
 
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It will be different without her next year! Can you believe the beautiful/awful weather?
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