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Old 04-21-2017, 06:15 AM
 
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Hi everyone. I've been dating my boyfriend for a little under a year. This week, I had off for spring break. I thought he was being a bit snarky. I was talking to him on the phone and I said something. He said "Must be nice to have the week off" with a huge tude. I just laughed it off. I think he's resentful of the time I have off. This common if your SO isn't a teacher?


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My husband doesn't understand.
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We don't talk about my job. He doesn't give me attitude, though. If he talked to me that way, there'd be hell to pay. I'm too old to put up with people disrespecting me in my personal life.
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Old 04-21-2017, 08:58 AM
 
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Every time it comes up we have the same conversation.

SO: It must be nice to have the day/week/summer off.
Me: You could be a teacher too.
SO: I'd be in jail.
Me:
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Old 04-21-2017, 01:10 PM
 
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My DH has never had that attitude towards my job nor said those types of comments. I have read on here though about some who do.
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Does he realize it is a week off without pay? Yes, you may still get a paycheck, but in my district, at least, our salary is divided up by the number of days you teach. There are no paid vacations for teachers in my experience. Just like having the summer off is unpaid "vacation".

I made this point yo my DH before we were married so he understood that. Now as for understanding the stress of teaching......that is another story!


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My dh would never give me attitude. He does say that it must be nice and that I deserve it.
On another note, I get a yearly salary that is divided up into 52 weeks so I guess I get paid for the summer
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conversation as Teddi plays out at my house.

DH will often make the comments about the time I am off. Frustrating yes, but I hate it that he does not have the time off to look forward to as well. But hey, he could be a teacher too! Not sure where bail money would come from though.
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Old 04-21-2017, 06:41 PM
 
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No, mom23kids, you don't get paid for the summer, you get paid THROUGH the summer for work you've already done. I think it's an important distinction to make.
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Old 04-21-2017, 07:43 PM
 
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Never. My DH sees how hard I work. He's of the view that I deserve the vacation. He's never resented it. We get enough flack from the public about our vacations; I couldn't deal with it at home too.
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DH knows i work my butt off. i'm usually doing a good amount of work during spring break. he wouldn't dare.


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Old 04-22-2017, 04:49 AM
 
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My DH has NEVER given me any negative attitude about my career or being off.

He always respects what I do bc I work hard & have passion for my career--even when we were dating while I was in college 25 yrs ago.

During the school year, I make sure DH & I both cook & clean bc we both work hard & full time

My DH is probably happy when I am off bc I am the one to cook & clean during that time.- he gets a break most of the time


It does saddens me each time PTers say that their SO complain about their days off
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Old 04-22-2017, 05:03 AM
 
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We have 4 kids, ages 13 (boy) 11 (boy) 4 (girl) and 3 (girl). Needless to say, work is my vacation. My hubby knows I'm never "off"!!
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Dh likes when I am off. He knows how hard I work and need the time off. He is on vacation too because I clean, shop and cook because I have more time to do it. He also liked me being home with the kids in the summer because I had the time to take care of the kids and everything else. A few weeks before school started in September, I warned him that his vacation was over too.
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Old 04-25-2017, 08:05 AM
 
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I mentioned a couple weeks ago that I'd like to look for a different job (which I have been saying for a long time now and have also mentioned many times the type of job I'd like to have). My husband said, "What else would you want to do? A job's a job, and you get your summers off."

I was speechless then and still am.
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