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Teacher Crossing the Line(LONG)
Old 05-05-2012, 03:21 PM
 
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My daughter is a freshman in high school. She's in a foreign language class taught by a teacher who is native to the language's country. He has quite the following of parents who think he's the bees knees because of his immersion method of teaching.

I'm not a fan of his, as a teacher or a parent because he has shown some questionable behavior over this school year to which I have spoken with the principal of my daughter's high school about. As most of you know, it's very hard to complain about other teachers because it's hard to separate the teacher/parent role within your own school district at times. I guess I'm taking the chance of being considered a nuisance because his behavior infuriates me as a teacher and most of all as a parent. Here's the skinny on that-

It all started when my daughter began to get Fs in class participation. When questioned about it, my daughter began complaining about "immaturity of boys" in her class and how she didn't feel comfortable saying things because the boys always turned it into something sexual or "nasty". She said that a lot of it was tolerated and even extended by her teacher. The first incident that I got wind of was an activity surrounding the names of clothes in that language. Mr. Immersion thought it was a good idea to bring in female clothes for the boys to dress up in to help them learn the foreign names. My daughter showed me pictures of boys in the class wearing bras (no shirts on) and panties over their jeans.She also informed me that the "immaturity" aspect of it was that the teacher let the boys draw "boobs" on the chalkboard when talking about bras, and when it came to using the vocabulary regarding underwear, that the TEACHER SAID IN GERMAN THAT HE WASN'T WEARING ANY and that he pretended to unbuckle his pants "to prove it".

That, was over the line. So, I contacted the princ at the school and had a lengthy discussion with him that included my suggestion that since the teacher was relatively new to the country that maybe he wasn't aware how something like that could be taken. We left it at that.

To make a long story short, we had a few other incidents like the ones above. Let me tell you, it was very hard not to go over and confront the guy face to face. Call me an overprotective dad, but some of this stuff is way out of line for ANYONE to say in the company of young ladies.

Well, yesterday I was policing my daughter's FB page and noticed she had posted a video that looked like it was taken at school. When I watched it, it turned out to be the teacher in question standing on a desk and doing a dance. As I watched I was totally shocked at what I saw. At first I thought, "There's no freakin' way I just saw what I saw." I rewatched it and sure enough, the guy was grabbing his crotch during his dance. I came unglued. The worst part about it is that my daughter, in putting up with bull crap like this is almost desensitized about it. I asked her what the story was behind the video. She said that he had lost a bet and had to dance for the class. When I asked if he was grabbing his crotch she said, "Yes."

Needless to say, it was a rough night for me. I wanted to confront this jerk in the worst way, but of course, that's where that teacher/parent thing gets in the way. I took the video down off of FB and sent it to the principal. I'm awaiting an answer.

Call me a prude, but I find this kind of behavior ridiculous. I seem to get a lot of "well, that's the way the world is now" or "what's the big deal? It's just harmless fun." To me, this is the kind of crap that comes up AFTER the high school teacher is caught having inappropriate contact with the female students if you know what I mean. Thoughts?


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I would be
Old 05-05-2012, 03:28 PM
 
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pissed too. You are doing the right thing. I would push the issue if it isn't dealt with.
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It is a big deal
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That guy's behavior is totally out of line and extremely inappropriate! Keep us posted on what the P says....
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Old 05-05-2012, 03:48 PM
 
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I agree that he is totally past the line. I complained when my dd's teachers cursed in classes. If we can't have teachers be role models, then what are the kids going to use?
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A teacher at my school was suspended
Old 05-05-2012, 03:56 PM
 
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for inappropriate dancing at a school sanctioned event. The P was there and she videoed it. I would show this video to the P and demand that something be done.


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I am so thankful
Old 05-05-2012, 04:08 PM
 
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that you moved forward with this. Not acceptable in any situation. I hope that your daughter hears and understands your concern. These types of behaviors unravel all the hard work we do as teachers.
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I agree, TOTALLLY UNACCEPTABLE and I would go off. I'm a parent first, then a teacher. My teacher self is mad b/c these kind of jerks make the news and cause people to disrespect the rest of us who are hard working professionals!
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IMHO...you have done the right thing by sending the video to the principal. I will be anxious to see what action is taken!!
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Old 05-05-2012, 04:55 PM
 
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Whoa! I don't believe that is a cultural thing at all. I think that jerk is WAYYY out of line! I was prepared to be skeptical about your post but I would be so furious!!
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I can't wait to read your follow-up. Totally inappropriate behavior.


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To me, this is the kind of crap that comes up AFTER the high school teacher is caught having inappropriate contact with the female students if you know what I mean.
I completely agree.
Keep at it. I pray he hasn't already abused a child.
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Old 05-05-2012, 06:12 PM
 
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Your DD is fortunate to have a Dad like you who is watching out for her.

You have done the right thing.
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You are right
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And you might even call up your local police dept. What this teacher did is not only inappropriate but sexual harassment. Your daughter was put into a hostile environment where she was made to feel insecure and uncomfortable by a teacher's suggestive actions and tolerance of overly sexual remarks and behaviors. This teacher should be suspended at once. Yes, he needs due process (if he is tenured.). If he isn't, I think he should just be fired. Call the district office and complain, too, if the P doesn't respond satisfactorily.
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Old 05-05-2012, 07:16 PM
 
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Wow, SO not ok. Glad you sent the video in to the P, I hope you get immediate action. That is NOT ok.
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If the principal does nothing,
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the next stop is the local TV station and/or YouTube, with a little note underneath that this is the type of behavior sanctioned by Principal X at X High School. Then just sit back and wait for the ##### to hit the fan.
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Old 05-06-2012, 09:10 AM
 
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Don't you think your School Board should also be notified? That is totally unacceptable in my book. I would yank my dd out so fast. Please keep us posted. This teacher needs to be fired, not just reprimanded. The dance was bad enough, but the humiliation all the girls in the class had to take on a daily basis is quite another thing. He needs to go and your P if he/she doesn't respond immediately!

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It sounds like it is time to take the video and other concerns to the principal and then the school board if things don't get taken care of. This teacher is overboard right now.
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You are not a prude you are standing up for what is wrong!!!!!
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Being a good dad
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Part of being a father is teaching your daughter how she should be treated and what standards she should expect.

Good luck and hubs. Not enough dads out there expect their dd's to become ladies and ensure they are treated as such.
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Old 05-06-2012, 03:48 PM
 
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Anytime I am concerned about the teacher as parent situation, I have my husband go to the school. That way the issue is addressed by "just a parent", not a colleague.
I agree, though, TAKE IT FURTHER! Get it stopped!
Good luck, keep us posted!
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I'd be calling the police and DCFS as well. Good for you for standing up for not only your daughter but all the others girls in that class but all the other classes.

Please keep us updated.
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The young men in this class are also victims.
Old 05-06-2012, 07:54 PM
 
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They need role models who understand how to treat females with respect. They are learning behaviors that will bring them much grief in other situations. Stay behind this, and stand up for all students subjected to this jerk!
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Wtf????????????????
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I've never heard anything like this before.
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Please send a copy of the video to the super/school board and cc. the principal so he knows this is a big deal. I get a bad feeling in my gut each time a read this post. This is true sexual harassment and needs to be addressed by the school board/super, not the principal, as he has already shown his colors by his off handed remarks about your other concerns. YUCK
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Sexual harrassment
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I would be raising h***. This is beyond normal. What is going on and what is the P doing about it. I hope you have documented these bizarre incidents. Sexual harassment suit? I am not the suing kind but good grief.
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I have no words...
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Horrible. Disgraceful. Ridiculous. Sick.

Please let us know how this turns out.
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I sent the video to the princ of the school. My daughter was talked to the next day. Later this week, a position resembling that of said teacher made its way to the "available for transfer" positions in our district. Of course, we know how the "we can not say what we did any more than that he was disciplined" comment we routinely get in cases like this, but the job posting was a giant clue as to how that turned out.
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Thanks for the update!
Wonderful news. I am happy to hear you and future students and their parents won't need to worry about this guy anymore.
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