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Old 08-03-2020, 05:38 PM
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Well... besides the whole cheating on me then moving in with the affair then knocking her up (supposedly his baby)...

Today the twins started daycare at a new daycare. I emailed him, had a Zoom conference call on Friday with him and director, texted him. HE NO SHOWED!!!! I was livid and so sad for the kids. Of course I told them before he no showed that he was coming as he has come very year. His excuse- you had everything together and your mom was there to help you. AKA- I don't want to face your mom (who would have stayed in car) and my kids aren't a priority over my feelings. He tried blaming it on me that I didn't communicate enough. No sir. He could have called and double checked. It's a two way street.

Y'all... it was heart wrenching. They cried and I started crying because I was so mad and I couldn't make it better for the kids. He is recreating his childhood for his kids. It breaks my heart that I can't prevent it from happening. I can't make him be a good man- we wouldn't be in this spot if I could have.

Lesson learned- never tell kids dad is supposed to show up until he shows up.


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Old 08-03-2020, 05:45 PM
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I am sorry you were put in this position. Too bad he didn't have a real excuse as to why he flaked on his children. I agree, never tell them he is going to come until his car pulls up.
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Old 08-03-2020, 05:51 PM
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Oh dang..that is a huge disappointment! So sorry tech grad.
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Old 08-03-2020, 06:50 PM
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I'm sorry! That is heartbreaking!

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Old 08-03-2020, 07:17 PM
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Iím sorry. Agreed about not telling them ahead of time...if he shows up great! If not, youíll be irritated but better you then them.
FWIW, simply because heís recreating his childhood doesnít make it so. It doesnít have to have the same outcome. The kids have you! And your mom.


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Old 08-03-2020, 07:33 PM
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"He is recreating his childhood for his kids..."

I'm so sorry that your husband is doing this. I don't understand why people do things they know caused them pain as a child, but the grip seems so strong, like they can't break the cycle. My husband has some behaviors even though he tries hard not to be like his Dad.
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Old 08-03-2020, 08:56 PM
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I'm so sorry. That is so disappointing. All you can do is be a supportive mom for your kids. It's so hard to not be able to protect our kids from all the hurts in the world (worse if the hurts come from the ones supposed to support them most in the world). I've been on a few sides of this. Sending some love.
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Old 08-03-2020, 08:59 PM
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Iím sorry for your sweet twins. I would keep notes about these instances for future reference just in case.
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So disrespectful
Old 08-05-2020, 04:38 AM
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Totally sucks! I have learned with my own kids not to tell them anything in advance because if things donít work out thereís nothing to explain. Good surprises are always nice. You know you canít count on him so donít even try.
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Old 08-06-2020, 04:55 PM
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I am so sorry. My heart goes out to all of you. I know it had to be heart wrenching for you.

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