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Old 09-24-2019, 05:56 PM
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If a high up administrator in your district got caught having an affair with a school employee would either of them be fired?


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Old 09-24-2019, 05:58 PM
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I don’t think so.
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Old 09-24-2019, 06:01 PM
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Only if the Central Office had been trying to get rid of him/her anyway.
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Old 09-24-2019, 06:03 PM
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If they both work in the same department it's supposed to be disclosed, and one person can't be "in the chain of command" of the other. But if they work in different departments and one doesn't have supervisory power over the other, then probably not.
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Old 09-24-2019, 06:05 PM
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Not unless the affair is explicitly defined as a dismissible offense in the contract.


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Old 09-24-2019, 06:17 PM
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One of them would get a promotion.
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Old 09-24-2019, 06:24 PM
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It can be a higher up and be fine, but if it's a principal/teacher then they're both let go.
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Old 09-24-2019, 06:25 PM
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Depends on your district. Here a principal was caught with a teacher. The principal was fired and the teacher was reassigned to another school.
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Old 09-24-2019, 06:36 PM
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km,that is so funny and unfortunately very true in many workplaces.
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Old 09-24-2019, 07:19 PM
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One of them would get a promotion.
This would be my district. The highest-ranking employee would be promoted and the low-level employee would be moved or fired.


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Old 09-24-2019, 07:31 PM
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Depends on who they are related to.
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Old 09-24-2019, 07:43 PM
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We had a P & VP (both married) affair going on in one school. Once the cat was out of the bag, they moved the VP to a different school. Nobody got fired.
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Old 09-24-2019, 07:53 PM
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This has happened at a school where I worked and the administrator was removed to fill a vacancy elsewhere.
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Old 09-24-2019, 07:55 PM
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In my district they were both principals and eventually got married. Everyone knew.

I found it disgusting. He was truly one disgusting individual. Don’t know what she saw in him. Hence I had no respect for either of them.
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Old 09-24-2019, 10:56 PM
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I think it happens all the time sadly.
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Old 09-25-2019, 03:46 AM
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Sorry, I actually laughed out loud at this. Not in my district.

FWIW, I don’t think it is a laughing matter. I think our teachers would be happy if our school board took affairs seriously but they hired a superintendent who was a known cheater.
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Old 09-25-2019, 04:11 AM
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The year I retired our youngish new principal left the district to become principal in a larger high paying district. She was caught having an affair with a principal at another school. Both were marrried. Both were put on leave and ultimately “resigned”. Her marriage crumbled. Not sure about his. She was able to get a principalship in another district.
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Old 09-25-2019, 04:41 AM
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From what I know since my old district had some of these types of affairs, NO.
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Old 09-25-2019, 06:00 AM
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In the past there have been teacher - teacher affairs, principal- teacher affairs, one principal-secretary affair, and one principal-para affair that I am aware of. Nobody lost their job.

The only thing I ever heard happening was in the last principal-teacher affair they were told one of them had to transfer. They have them the choice of who had to move. And that was a result of the anti-nepotism clause that a recent school committee enacted. You can't supervise anyone you have a family or romantic relationship with now.

(One time, before the new rule, we had a principal supervising his teacher wife, while having an affair with his secretary, and then another teacher. The teacher wife divorced him. He married the affair partner teacher and then had an affair with a para. If he didn't lose his job for the affairs, no one will.)
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Old 09-25-2019, 06:03 AM
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Our male principal's wive taught at another district school, where his kids attended. He had an affair with a para at that school. He was fired.

He also was a very ineffective principal, so who knows why he actually was let go.
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Old 09-25-2019, 07:20 AM
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I have to confirm that my experience is much the same as the PP. Admin and teachers transferred to other schools and little else done.
But for one....Rumors swirled for years about a P I had for several years. Nothing happened. In addition he was a poor leader. Teachers transferred or quit and mysteriously reappeared at other schools in the district. Every year we welcomed 20-25 new staff members to our campus. He blocked some attempts to transfer. This went on for ten years. We always wondered if he kept his job because he knew where the all the other skeletons were hidden in the district. Maybe because he was one of only a few Hispanic P s, and this made our district look good.
Finally one of our staff complained about something she had seen between the P and a teacher. Several teachers were called in to be interviewed about the allegation. It became public and painful, but he was fired from the district.
Finally.
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Old 09-25-2019, 12:06 PM
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From my understanding my district doesn't do anything. Although we had a P who had an affair with student's mother and had a baby with her. He was removed from our school to work in another area,however there were naked pictures of him.
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Old 09-25-2019, 12:49 PM
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They are moved but nothing more. I only know of one, though, a principal and a teacher.
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Old 09-25-2019, 03:44 PM
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I guess I thought my district was just super lenient and tolerant. Sounds like lots of our districts “sweep it under the rug” so to speak. I’m shocked. 😳
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Old 09-25-2019, 04:49 PM
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Nope. Usually nobody mentions it unless someone causes a scene. There have been a couple of moves and resignations at the end of the year. Nothing more.
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Old 09-26-2019, 05:30 AM
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Not in the last public school district I worked in, unless it somehow had an impact on job performance. For instance, if it was perceived that the school employee was getting unfair preferential treatment because of an affair with an administrator there would likely be repercussions. If there were observed instances of PDA on school grounds, that would be highly frowned upon. It would be more likely that community disapproval would make it difficult enough for them to do their jobs that they would voluntarily leave the district. For the most part, the feeling is that school employees have the right to conduct their personal lives as they see fit so long as it doesn't affect the school. I think that's fair.

Now I teach in a Catholic school and yes, I imagine that an extra-marital affair would get any school employee fired. That's because it is spelled out in the contract that Catholic school employees are expected to uphold the beliefs and values of the church. That's fair, too.
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Old 09-26-2019, 05:33 AM
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Sometimes they higher up gets promoted in my district!
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Old 09-26-2019, 02:22 PM
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Conducting it in the supply closet = firings
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Old 09-26-2019, 05:45 PM
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Over the years I know of at least three in our district who have eventually been promoted! It depends upon who you are.

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Old 09-28-2019, 02:58 AM
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happened in the district I taught in and no one was fired. The affair was between an elementary principal(man)and a curriculum coordinator (woman).

The only thing that happened was the woman involved was moved from a large office to a cubicle type office.

Since I live in a small city(population around 9,000), it was the talk of the town for awhile. Several colleagues thought they should be fired, however nothing happened to either of them.

The principal involved was one that I worked for and the woman involved was a retired colleague’s daughter. I always felt uncomfortable around both of them after it became known they were having an affair. They eventually got married. The principal involved became the woman’s fourth husband.

If each of them had both been divorced and got together, it would have been different.
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Old 09-29-2019, 01:41 PM
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If they worked at the same building one or both would most likely be moved.
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