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Old 12-21-2017, 01:02 AM
 
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I still experience frequent sadness since DH passed away in October, but itís getting better. Today, though, is a very hard day. It would have been our 43rd anniversary. Thanks for sending me smiles.


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Old 12-21-2017, 01:17 AM
 
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{{Amiga!}} Today is a bittersweet day. Totally understandable. I'm sure your DH's spirit is smiling on you on your special date.

Sending you a smile too.
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Old 12-21-2017, 01:31 AM
 
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It's ok to be sad! There's no time limit on grief. Hugs to you!
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Old 12-21-2017, 01:35 AM
 
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Thinking of you today, Amiga. Hoping each day gets easier and you find joy in the new year.
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Old 12-21-2017, 01:48 AM
 
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Of course you can be sad, healing goes slowly.

Sending you smiles and hugs.


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Old 12-21-2017, 01:52 AM
 
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I understand why it is a hard day. I am sorry.
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Old 12-21-2017, 02:43 AM
 
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Oh Amiga, it is indeed a hard day for you. Sending you smiles, hugs and prayers. Itís been 7 years since I lost my husband and I still have too many hard days. I believe itís the price of loving so deeply. It does get better Amiga.
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Hugs dear Amiga.....
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I think you've been amazing and so go ahead girl, have yourself a bit of a sad day...it's allowed! I would be celebrating my 42nd anniversary on Dec. 28th if my DH hadn't up and died. Men!! It gets easier....but there's always a part of your heart missing. He wouldn't want you to be sad...at least not for long. I still think we should have a little celebration though....after all....you were a loving, devoted wife and 43 years is a wonderful accomplishment. Hugs and good wishes that tomorrow will be a brighter day!
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:32 AM
 
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Sending you big hugs!
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My thoughts are with you, Amiga.


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Old 12-21-2017, 07:37 AM
 
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Sending you a smile 😊 and a virtual hug today.
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Old 12-21-2017, 07:58 AM
 
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You are always so positive and supportive of others who are going through struggles. Hugs and prayers for this difficult time.
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Old 12-21-2017, 09:11 AM
 
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I hope you can remember the good times. Huge hug to you!
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Old 12-21-2017, 10:30 AM
 
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Little Rhody hugs coming your way! Hopefully your happy memories can bring a smile today...
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Old 12-21-2017, 10:37 AM
 
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amiga13, the sadness is part of the healing process. You should allow yourself to be sad. The holidays are particularly difficult when you have celebrated them together for so many years. I am glad that we are here to support you in your healing. I realize that telling you that it will get better is not going to help you much, but in my case this Christmas will have been 25 years since I lost my DH#1, and although the sadness still creeps in occasionally, I now mostly have fond memories of our time together.
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Old 12-21-2017, 11:17 AM
 
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Thinking of you Amiga, you have been very strong going through the last 15 or so months. I admire your positive attitude!
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Of course you can be sad! ((hugs)) You are always so positive and supportive of others. Can you share a pic of your wedding day?
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Old 12-21-2017, 12:08 PM
 
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I am sad for you. It's especially hard getting through that first year after losing a loved one. I will be thinking of you during this holiday season.
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Old 12-21-2017, 12:42 PM
 
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PT love, hugs, and prayers surround you, amiga. Hope you can find a little comfort in that.
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I know this is a sad day for you but
Old 12-21-2017, 12:43 PM
 
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I hope there will be a few moments where you remember the beautiful moments you had together and I hope that will bring you a little peace.

Sending a virtual hug.
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:16 PM
 
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Sending smiles {{and hugs}}
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:38 PM
 
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You have every right to grieve, and we are here to support you. It is natural to feel sad and miss your DH after so many years together. I hope tomorrow will be better for you. Sending sympathy and healing thoughts....
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Sending warm thoughts
Old 12-21-2017, 04:18 PM
 
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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Old 12-21-2017, 07:34 PM
 
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Its OK to grieve and be sad. We are here for you! (((HUGS)))

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Old 12-21-2017, 09:10 PM
 
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I hope that you can find some comfort in remembering the good times that you and your husband experienced in your marriage. Thinking of you!
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Me too, Amiga
Old 12-22-2017, 01:12 AM
 
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I can totally understand - my husband just passed away on December 10 from Alzheimers. We would have been together 43 years also this month. We were together my whole adult life and it's difficult to begin building this strange new life alone, so I understand your sadness. I'm glad it's getting better for you and I'm sending you many smiles to get through this sad day.
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Thank you all!
Old 12-22-2017, 01:34 AM
 
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Thank you, friends. Your kind messages got me through yesterday. Both my kids calledóI have no clue how they remembered. You touched my heart, thank you.

forkids2, Iím sending good thoughts right back to you. We have a lot in common, donít we? I think thatís why I treasure this group so muchówe have a lot in common and understand each other.

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Old 12-22-2017, 02:59 AM
 
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Sending hugs to both of you, and prayers for you that your hearts may heal, leaving only joyful memories.
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Old 12-22-2017, 08:18 AM
 
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Aww..I am sad for you. My bff lost her hubs about 3 years ago and this is the first time that she put up her Christmas tree. I believe that that time is our friend when we lose someone we love. I hope you have a Christmas surounded by loved ones. (((hugs)))
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Old 12-22-2017, 02:33 PM
 
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You have our love, hugs, and support.
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Old 12-22-2017, 04:54 PM
 
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Sending you warm thoughts, Amiga. I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling.
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Old 12-27-2017, 03:57 AM
 
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I am thinking of you. I can not imagine your sadness at this time. Hugs to you.
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Old 12-28-2017, 02:43 PM
 
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((((Amiga13)))) I just saw your post. Your pain is still fresh-it has only been a couple of months. It is okay to feel sad and even to have a good cry. The first year can be so difficult-especially the holidays and special events that the two of you shared. I am glad that your children called you. I hope that fond memories of the time you and your husband shared helped you get through the day. I wish I could find the words to help you feel better and to ease your pain. I continue to pray that you feel God's peace.

My husband passed away four years ago in Sept. Dec 29th would have been my husband and my 33rd wedding anniversary.
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Old 01-01-2018, 05:59 PM
 
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I just read your post. I'm so sorry for your loss. There is no time limit to how long you can or should feel sad. I hope you feel some comfort with each day that passes. Again, I am just so sorry for your loss.
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