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I'm starting a new position at a new school this coming year, and recently met the other teachers that will be on my grade-level team. It just so happens that one of the teacher's will be graduating soon, and she just sent me an invitation to go to her graduation party. Anyway, I'm conflicted as to whether or not I should attend. I only spoke with her when we all met together, and I may feel awkward going since I don't really know anyone. However on the other hand, I don't want to seem unfriendly and I would hate it if I was the only one from the team or school that didn't come. I don't know whether to respond yes, no, or maybe. I guess I could respond maybe, and that would allow me some time to find out more about it. I don't know...what do you think???


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As someone who is not a big socializer I would go. It gives you the chance to socialize with your new colleagues.

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It might be a fun way for you to put names and faces with others on the staff. You could check to see if the other grade level teammates are planning on going so you would know a few people. I think it was nice of her to include you.

If you feel it isn't for you, that's okay too. My excuse would be that I was very sorry, I had other plans for that day.
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Old 06-18-2019, 03:33 PM
 
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I think I would send a congratulations card. I am not very social...
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I'd go for awhile . There's a benefit to showing up and appearing sociable . The assumptions and fallout that will be made by you not showing up would last a long time. You don't need that.


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It was nice of her to invite you, but I wouldn't go. I would send a card instead.
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Old 06-18-2019, 04:42 PM
 
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I think she is making an effort to include you. So I think you should go, but you donít need to stay long.
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Old 06-18-2019, 05:27 PM
 
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Take a small gift, mingle a bit, don't feel obligated to hang out for hours and hours. If it helps, what works for me sometimes is a "That's a busy day for me, but I'd love to stop by", giving you an out if you feel awkward.
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Old 06-18-2019, 06:04 PM
 
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I think it was very kind of her to include you. She seems to be trying to make you feel like part of the team. I would go.
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This teacher is making an effort to make you feel welcome and part of the team.


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Old 06-19-2019, 01:49 AM
 
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I'd probably make an appearance and do something like Emily26 suggested, " I've got a busy day, but I'm so glad you thought of me. "
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Old 06-19-2019, 04:23 AM
 
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That's a very good sign that she included you as the new member of the team.
You need to go and leave early if you have to or you may have a wonderful time and not want to leave early
Congratulations on your new job
and let us know how it goes.
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Old 06-19-2019, 07:54 AM
 
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I would go--you get to meet your new friends!
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Itíll give you a chance to meet people from the school before the stress of the school year sets in. You donít need to stay long. Have fun and congratulations on the new job.
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Old 06-19-2019, 08:52 AM
 
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I would go. It's very kind of her to include you.

But you also don't have to stay long.

I'd say that you'd love to "stop by" because that gives you an out if it's awkward but allows for staying longer if you click instantly with the team and want to stay longer.
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Old 06-19-2019, 08:57 AM
 
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Even though the thought of going to a party where I don't really know anyone would give me some anxiety, I would push myself to attend. It would be a good way to get to know your new team.
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Old 06-19-2019, 09:40 AM
 
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Go. I understand that it may feel awkward, but I think this teacher is making an effort to include you and make you feel like a part of the team.
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Old 06-21-2019, 04:23 AM
 
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Go, if you don't have plans and play it by ear. Take a small gift, teaching related, and a nice graduation card letting her know how excited you are to work with her and get to know her better and working with her.

Don't respond maybe. That is rude.

If you do think you will feel so awkward that you won't be showing your good side and can't adapt even for a short while, decline the invitation. No reason needed, but be sure to ask about her graduation the next time you see her and tell her how you wished you were able to attend. The beauty of this invite is that it is unexpected and last minute. So, a decline wouldn't be that surprising to her.
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