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Old 08-23-2017, 11:16 AM
 
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I swear my district secretary is the meanest person I've ever met in my life. Today, I had to go to the district office to drop off some paper work and she was yelling (LOUDLY) at a new para who had forgotten one signature. She was yelling, "oh my God! Do you know how much easier this would be on me if you did it all on once?, How could you forget something so easy?!". And on and on. The poor para was in tears. I wish I had said something, but I was scared.
Everyone jokes about it, but she's been there for over 10 years and it's just not right the way she treats people. She's even rude to the higher-up administrators and parents! She is head secretary for the entire district so she is making decent money. How do people like this get and stay employed? I guess it's more of a rhetorical question, but it just makes me so mad to see her treat people so badly.


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That's awful
Old 08-23-2017, 11:26 AM
 
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Now I'm going to tell you to do something that sounds strange. Go out of your way to get on her good side. She obviously has power, and you want her to like you. I would bring her a little plant and a card thanking her for all her hard work. And I'm sure she does work hard- she's the first stop for everyone who needs something.

Maybe if everyone gets on board, she'll be nicer. "You catch more flies with honey..."

My bff's secretary is a beast, and they "sacrifice" students to bring her messages so they stay out of the line of fire. But she loves my BFF- she brings her chocolate.

Good luck, and keep your head down!
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She started yelling at me one time and I just said "yes, you are right, I'm sorry for my mistake". She just mumbled "it's fine" and looked away. I'm know she must have a heavy workload and I'm sure it's frustrating trying to get everything in order this time of year. I might have to try the chocolates before the start of the school year !
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I sort of disagree with Munchkins...
Old 08-23-2017, 05:33 PM
 
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I have heard this advice before and I get it, but it bothers me. I've played this game with a nasty finance lady and I guess it was okay for me since I acted like I thought she was nice.

BUT....why do we have to excuse this behavior?? I find it so obnoxious to be so mean as to make others cry. I feel like these types of people go after the weak and anyone who would be hurt. I wish we lived in a world where these people would be told to tone it down or get out!
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I agree with Elsa. Why are people like this allowed to keep their jobs. Especially when a large part of their jobs require interacting with people and giving them assistance.

It sounds like they even intimidate their bosses. Maybe that is why they get to keep their jobs. Maybe they are two faced and have been able to convince their bosses that they are very nice, helpful people only to turn nasty when the boss isn't looking. The boss is rarely looking because he/she is too busy and doesn't notice the difference.

This to me is just like the paras who boss teachers around or refuse to do work and get away with it to where the teacher can not even complain to the principal about them.

I guess if you are stuck dealing with them, and it sounds like you are, being professional and cordial is the way to go. I hate to think it is necessary to bribe these awful people. I would think they would probably know they are being bribed. Who in their right mind would actually like someone who treats them that way?


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Been there..
Old 08-23-2017, 06:27 PM
 
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Every school I worked at had a desk dragon. The adminstration likes it because it kepts people out of the office. The desk dragon is a human meat shield for them.

It pays to be nice to the dragon. Dragons usually have the down low on loads of stuff coming down the administration slide. They're like freaking moles. The same with the custodians. They knew about lay offs and other junk long before anyone else had a clue.

A good desk dragon will also have info on what's festering at district office.

The one at my DD's school was nasty, but took a shine to me. I landed both my noon aide and media specialist gig later on because she gave me a heads up.

Admistration likes their desk dragons nasty. It keeps parents and the hired help out of their hair.

If you are sending kids down to the office so you can avoid the dragon, its #winning for the administration.
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Desk dragon
Old 08-24-2017, 04:17 AM
 
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What an appropriate name--desk dragon!

I wonder if readnandteach13 teaches at my district! Our business clerk is on a serious power trip.

Catch more flies with honey? Absolutely True

Treat people the same rude way they treat you? Tempting and sometimes necessary

Lay low and be cordial? Best bet. But the most difficult to swallow.
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Old 08-24-2017, 08:23 AM
 
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I love the term desk dragon! I never thought that administration would want a dragon to keep people out of their hair, but what you said makes so much sense Tawaki. I've even had parents ask me "what's up with Ms. Dragon??". What is interesting is that our district office is in an entire separate building than any students/teachers/school. You also have to stare into a camera and ring a bell for her to let you in her dragon's lair .
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Old 08-24-2017, 02:47 PM
 
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Wow, wow, wow. Various people need to have the guts to put her in her place!

Is she old enough to retire anytime soon?
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Not anytime soon...
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She probably has at least 10 years until retirement.


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Wow
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Okay, let's get something straight here. We're talking about a bully. That's the word we're scrambling for.

If a student tells you they're being beaten up by a bully on the playground who takes their lunch money every day, do you tell him/her to make nice, get on the bully's good side, and pay tribute to keep the bully happy?

Think about the advice you'd give a student being bullied. Then do precisely that.
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