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Old 09-30-2017, 08:21 AM
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My friend of 25 years who lives out of state has a twin sister in hospice, 20 min from my house. The sister is not here now. Would you go visit in hospice altho the girl is basically in and out and may not even know we're there plus I was never really HER friend, I was the other girls friend. Dh said he would go with me, woud you go?


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Old 09-30-2017, 08:25 AM
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It would be a nice gesture. I probably would take something small to cheer up the room for her. Maybe a single rose or a Mylar balloon from the dollar store would be nice. I would visit about 15 or 20 minutes. I am sure your friend would really appreciate this gesture.
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Old 09-30-2017, 08:31 AM
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I probably would too - if you are close to the out of town sister. It would be a nice thing for your friend to know you did.
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Old 09-30-2017, 08:33 AM
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I would do it for my friend as well as the patient.
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Old 09-30-2017, 08:45 AM
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Yes. I would go for my friend of 25 years. This situation is similar to when my best friends cousin and father died. I was there with her the entire time. One of the main things I did was drive her mother around. Mom had to be there .. was a mess and couldn't drive. I was there entirely as a support for my friend.. as I didn't know her cousin very well. I did know her dad .. but only as in an I know your family kind of way.

If I was in that boat I'd appreciate a visitor.


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Old 09-30-2017, 08:45 AM
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Thanks. I'm headed there now.
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I think that would be a lovely gesture.
Old 09-30-2017, 08:47 AM
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Even if she doesn't know you're there, her sister will know and will appreciate it greatly.
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Old 09-30-2017, 09:08 AM
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I'm glad you're going. I'd go for the patient but also out of a sense of friendship to my out of town friend. I know she must appreciate it.
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Old 09-30-2017, 09:20 AM
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Also glad you made the decision to go.

It's a very good thing all the way around.
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Old 09-30-2017, 10:08 AM
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I agree with the others. Even if the woman in Hospice does not realize you are there, it would me a lot to your friend.

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Old 09-30-2017, 10:58 AM
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Sure, if you want to! And tell your friend that you went to visit her sister, so she knows.
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Old 09-30-2017, 12:03 PM
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I just got back. It's so sad. She is 61 years old and always vibrant. She looks like shes 90. She didn't wake up while we were there, but I tried to talk to her anyway. I cleaned up her windowsill and organized all her cards and couple of gifts so it looked nice. So sad
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Let your friend know
Old 09-30-2017, 12:09 PM
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Let her know you visited and she was resting. It will ease your friend's mind.
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Kindness is always the right thing
Old 09-30-2017, 02:10 PM
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Thank you for going. She may have known on some level that you were there. And I'm sure it was a great comfort to your friend to have you go in her place. Your kindness no doubt brought her peace. Prayers for all!
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