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Old 10-01-2012, 05:07 PM
 
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I teach at a small private sp Ed school, have a young man/ teenager who likes to wear his slacks below his bottom. Every day I get to see his entire rear end. I have asked, shown him the dress code in the handbook and he says I am picking on him "cuz" he's black. His other teachers are aware obviously, but it doesn't seem to bother them. Any suggestions as to how I can get him to act appropriately, this has gone on for months...his home room teacher who has a lot of power over him thinks the young man and I are just having a power struggle. I don't want to be in a power struggle with any of my students I just want him to pull up his darn pants.
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Old 10-01-2012, 05:14 PM
 
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it is a power struggle

does he keep his pants down for the homeroom teacher? Are you seeing bare skin butt or just underwear?

What does administration say/do?

I'd ask an administrator to hang around your room and catch him.

how to handle this really depends on what type of kid he is. With some kids I've had friends who have tied the boys pants up with hot pink ribbon. But if he's a behavior problem kid, that won't fly at all.

I taught at a school that pulled from the projects, we had a large percentage of boys who wore their pants like that. The only person who could ever get them to pull their pants up was a big ole' black para we had. She used to tell the boys that prison signs for gay $ex was to wear your pants low. No one else ever tried to tell the boys that.
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Prison sex...! Little ole' white me could never get away with that but I'm rolling on the floor.

I guess I'm wondering why you're choosing to fight this fight with this kid. It's a special ed school so clearly there are bigger issues and bigger fish to fry. If the homeroom teacher is letting it go and admin isn't doing anything about it why are you choosing to? I personally never fought the dress code fight.

If he wants to show his underwear and his butt...let him.
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Old 10-02-2012, 04:18 PM
 
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His pants are below is bottom every day, every class, a little further for me. I read the two responses and decided I would ignore, so he came up the hall today with his hat on, a huge violation. His home room teacher was behind him, asked him to remove, he did til she was gone, he put it on and I ignored, my assistant asked him to take off, he adjusted it on his head and she called the home room teacher and she took him
Admin thinks all teachers should enforce the code, but I am the only one, so I have a choice to make, either ignore or take him to another class, he loves attention, from the inner city, but that style is no longer a fashion statement anywhere. Thank you for your comments
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I have ignored low cut shirts on girls, super tight jeans, doesn't bother me, but I think showing ones botton is very disrespectful and he knows it makes me angry, i think he enjoys getting under my skin, our school excels in making kids socially appropriate, I guess I will ignore, I will try. Thank you for your comments


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Things have gone from bad to worse, I am at a loss as to what to do, I ignored the pants below his bottom, the hat on, but he has upped the battle, a couple days ago he rammed into my chair, I told him he could say excuse me and I would move my chair, he responded you were in my way, next day he kept his feet up on a chair, the one I was going to sit in to help another student, I asked him to please take his shoes off the chair, he answered I couldn't tell him what to do, I got another staff member to escort him to a time out room, ten minutes later he returned and put his feet back on the chair, I got a stronger personality teacher who asked him to remove his feet, same response, she said let's go see the director, he said fine, he went, said he didn't do anything wrong, next day he came in my room, did little but was quiet, I was hopeful, today he was put on escort by his home room teacher, he walked out of her room, she put him in time out room and he roamed the halls, went in classrooms, cursed, tore up work that was given to him and wore his hat. He has been at our school for more than a year, any ideas why his behavior is deteriorating and any suggestions, (his mother does not return calls and has little control over him.)
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Perverts, doctors and others in the medical profession usually don't react to seeing exposed butts, but I think it's offensive. No matter what you say, no one can offer an acceptable explanation for anyone walking around in public with their butt exposed. More people need to speak up against it. If you say nothing, you're also sending the message that
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Hi there!
If he's upping the ante, it sounds like he really actually likes the attention he is getting. So, that means that you have to flip things on him and give him positive attention, instead of negative attention. Ignoring the negative behavior is great. Now, praise him and give him positive attention for anything he does that is right on and what he's supposed to do. If he doesn't do anything positive, create a situation where you can catch him doing something positive. Although he's an older kiddo, his needs are exactly what an elementary kid needs. Concrete, direct communication and praise him for the good stuff...even if it's just walking into your classroom instead of running, etc. Good luck!
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