Parent out to get me

ohboy · **Parent out to get me** 11-13-2009, 06:57 PM

I have an asperger boy who has learned behaviors which he brings to school (yelling/screaming, running out of the room, talking loudly etc..) A "trusted" adult came to me and told me this mother is out to get my job and to watch my back. Her son is NEVER wrong and he is not "bad".

What advise do you have for me? My prinicpal knows and my union will be told on Monday (they were out of the office). I constantly document his behavior (good and bad).

I would really appreciate your suggestions and advice. I have almost 21 years teaching and never had this happen.

Thanks!!
Ohboy

teachergranma · **not to be gotten** 11-13-2009, 08:07 PM

Be sure you follow his IEP to the letter. Document what you do to follow the IEP. I have a grandson with aspergers. Try to research this and document what you learn and how you applied it to your dealings with him. There are some great web sites about this for teachers. I had a student with it last year too. Also, work closely with your Special Education team. I don't see how this parent can get you if you are following the IEP. It does make for a stressful year and makes you second guess your dealing with the child. Best wishes as you deal with this problem.

goldenbeads · **Observation** 11-14-2009, 05:54 AM

Have someone come in and do observations - someone she trusts? someone "higher up?" someone she'll have to believe?

Yes, follow IEP, maybe establish daily/weekly home/school communication system so she is never surprised, "Teacher never told me anything was wrong . . . "

Drooper · **I'm Sorry** 11-14-2009, 08:19 PM

I know this makes you question and over think everything you do. Just continue doing what you know you are suppose to be doing. Hope things settle down and return back to "normal".

DonnaBag · **It's really sad** 11-15-2009, 04:25 PM

It always seems to happen sometime in your teaching career. Too bad the parents don't put that energy into doing what's best for their child and cooperate with the teacher. A teacher shouldn't have to worry about anyone being "out to get them". I think you seem to be covering your bases and you have some good advice from the posts I see. I know it's hard and I've heard these kind of stories many times and experienced it too. I don't have any advice I just wanted to let you know, you are not alone. It will be Okay. You have it under control.