My mom is very difficult to buy for too!!! Her birthday was last month and at the last minute my sister said she needed a new printer. BINGO!
My mom's stereo/cd player broke about a year and a half ago. She was saying she didn't need one, yada, yada, yada because her TV has music stations. Well too bad! We bought her one from all of us. It's not an expensive one, so I still needed to come up with something else. I think I'm going to donate to a family in need and let my mom know what I bought. She will think that's a really cool idea. I got this idea from a friend at work!
Does she have a favorite restaurant? Like facials or massages? Like to travel? Gift cards for those places would be nice. Or how about a basket with wine and yummy goodies and a generous Visa Gift card?
Some of my favorite gifts from my own grown kids include
cd of music from one of my favorite music groups when I was a teenager.
journal--I love to write.
Precious Moments figurines
A collection of my favorite teas and flavors of cappuccino.
tickets to a concert or dinner theater.
Those are just a few things I can think of.
Do you and your brother live near her? How about a "day of togetherness"? You both could take her to lunch and a movie or a walk in a local garden. Or you and she could go get a manicure together and then meet your brother for lunch. Just a fun, relaxing day with the people she loves most
Time with your grown children is probably the best gift a mother could ask for.
Does she need some work done at her house? (room painted, junk room cleaned out, etc. ) If so, offer to spend a weekend helping her with those things she just can't get to or can't do herself.
One year my daughter and her sons came and helped me clean house and decorate for Christmas. Because I have back trouble and was panicking on how to get ready for our houseful of company, it is one of my most precious gifts.
Another favorite gift from her was her sons and she helped me clean out a room (aka junk room) to change it into a bedroom because my mom was coming to live with us. All the trips up and down stairs, the lifting, and the company to keep me on task were greatly appreciated.
Think of things to make her life easier. We have given our mother-in-law snow removal and/or grass mowing for a gift because she lives in another town. Offer her tickets for "housekeeping" or "yard work" chores if you live close enough. Vacuums, shampooers, mowers, etc. are hard on backs and as "we" get older, those chores become exhausting and often painful.
I have the same problem, but since she has grandkids now, it is not so difficult. I generally buy my mom "grandparent" things and she loves them. Her fav gift ever is an afghan that you can order from the walmart photo center and it has a picture of my family on it. This is an expected gift every year now. I also buy her expensive underwear, new PJs, bath and body works goodies, Godiva candies. Basically things that she doesn't buy herself on a regular basis.
--how about a nice family portrait maybe on canvas & framed of you & your brother (grandchildren)
--house cleaning for several months
--a visit to a spa
-- a paid weekend for her and a friend to go do something she enjoys
--a nice antique mirror
--nice bed sheets
--something pewter (if she likes that kind of stuff)
My mom is very hard to buy for... that being said, today I was out with a friend, not intending to buy anything, but we stopped at a store that had a Vera Bradley sale. 20% off, but they also had a section of recently retired patterns for 50% off. I found a double eyeglass case that is perfect for her readers and sunglasses. She is always looking for one or the other when we are out, so this is a perfect solution. The pattern is pretty and not too bright or obnoxious. The best part is that it is bright and will be easy to spot in the bottom of her purse! Best of all it was 1/2 price and they even boxed and wrapped it for me!
Mom & Kids day. Plan an entire day. Take her to another town (not too far away) and bring her to a museum, art show, garden, aquarium, ect. Buy the tickets and schedule it! Just the three of you (or if she is married, her DH too). It will be like old times without the extra family(kids and spouses). She can focus her attention on talking/enjoying the scenery with y'all and y'all can do the same with her.
Membership to....... whatever she is into. Or you could get her golf lessons, piano lessons, ect. Something she would enjoy.
digital picture frame- put pics of your family on it already
Get her a few board games. Plan family game nights once a month!(Every second wed of the month or something)
take cooking classes or cake decorating classes together
Tickets to the theatre- you might even be able to swing season passes if you go in together!
Hire a proffesional photographer to take pictures. Give her a gift certificate
My sisters and I got our mom a one-year membership to Netflix a couple of years ago. She always had a list on the fridge of movies she wanted to see, so then she was able to just put them on her queue and they came to her one after the other.
This year--- a digital picture frame loaded with pics of her kids and grandkids.
My mom doesn't drive, and since my dad passed she is dependent on others to take her shopping. She hates to impose, so I take a personal day in Dec. and I am at her disposal all day long. We shop til we drop! But I let her do all the shopping, and I am there to give opinions if needed, carry her packages, and drive her wherever she wants to go. I still get her things like sweaters and fun jewelry and gift cards, but she says the day shopping with me is the best present. And I look forward to it, too.
What about a monthly delivery service? Wine of the month etc.
My sister just joined stylemint dot com For $29.99 a month they send you a new t-shirt a month. You start by taking a style quiz. You can either choose that they send you a t-shirt each month from your style category OR you can choose one of the shirts.
I'm sure that there are many other creative items like that out there!
I also think that a family photo would be appreciated. The Pandora bracelt was a grat idea too!
Family picture or digital pic frame
Take her to play Bingo at a casino
Make her dinner on the first Sun. of every month (or invite her over)
Games/game night once a month- good idea
Nook or Kindle
arrange/pay for shoveling for the winter (if you live in a snowy area)
tickets for a play