When I started teaching at my current school 6 years ago, I was thrown into the whole love and logic system. I too, believed that I used many of their strategies under a different name. It was only when I went through the training that I truly understood and appreciated the techniques that go along with the program. Here are my favorites:
1. A child comes to you with a tattle about another student. You reply, "I'm sorry he/she made you feel this way. What are you going to do about it?" This throws the responsibility of dealing with tattletales to the students. Of course, if there is something major that happens, like hitting, etc...you might want to get more involved.
2. Homework, homework, homework...again, the student does not turn in the homework. When talking with the student, with empathy inquire about why said homework didn't get done. Student says, I had a baseball game/recital/forgot. You say, "Boy that sure sounds like you must have had a busy night. What do you think you are going to do tonight to get your homework done?" If student doesn't have a suggestion, say, "Would you like to know how other students have handled this problem?" Then if student says yes, you can offer suggestions to a strategy. I once had a student whose house was very noisy at night, extended family staying with them, so he suggested that he be allowed to do his homework when I opened the classroom door at 7:45 (school doesn't officially start until 8:25). I probably would have offered this option, but HE solved his problem instead of ME.
3. Broken record. I use this one a lot with my 4 year old. With him, my broken record is, "I'm sorry you feel that way." So, when I say time to take a bath, and he says, "OOOOOHHHHH NOOOOOOOO, mommy, not right now!", I reply with "I'm sorry you feel that way." Over, and over and over again. Any kind of statement of I don't want to do what you are asking me to do, I respond with "I'm sorry you feel that way." In the classroom, I usually use, "Oh dear..." So, a conversation might look this way:
Student: Mrs. ___, I forgot my pencil.
Me: Oh dear...
Student: I can't do my work without it.
Me: Oh dear...
Student: I think Susie took it.
Me: Oh dear
Conversation continues until student comes up with a solution to the problem.
Love and Logic has taken so much stress out of my life, and allowed my students to take a more active role in governing their behavior and making responsible choices. I went to the annual conference in Colorado Springs 3 summers ago, and can tell you if you ever get a chance to attend, it is WELL worth it. I also suggest reading any books by Betsy Geddes. Her behavior strategies tie in nicely with Jim and Charles Faye.
If you have any questions, feel free to ask or PM me!
P.S. I also use love and logic with my husband. "Would you rather load the dishwasher or help with son's bath?" He HATES it!