Thanks to this commercial, which seems to run constantly in the 7:00 hour, we recently had a rousing conversation the whole family enjoyed where mom (me) and oldest son (14yo) taught the younger son (13yo) what erectile dysfunction was, and why men wanted to have erections, and what erections were, etc etc. Mostly, I let older son do the explaining, with additions/clarifications as necessary. It was a good chance to check his knowledge for understanding as well as answer questions for my younger son
(It started with 13yo: "what's an erection?")
What has been your recent teachable moment?
Last edited by GraceKrispy; 04-04-2015 at 10:33 AM..
Good gravy! Don't you long for the days when we kept all that stuff hidden?
My son and I were watching something together and there was an ad about a cream...honestly, they must have said "vaginal dryness" 18 times in that 30-second ad! It was ridiculous! I did not use that teachable moment, I sniggered along with my 14 year old!
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Along the same lines what have you done when a student has asked you a personal question such as, "How are babies made?"
The commercials are getting more personal than ever. I want to know where I can find two bathtubs on a hilltop over looking the ocean so I can get in one and hold hands with a great looking man. Do these tubs have water in them?
I too have wondered if erectile dysfunction is happening at a younger age or is it that the people selling these pills are just targeting younger men.
Great that you used these commercials as a teachable moment. My children are older so I only have to deal with my little ones in class asking me questions. I always take it as a confirmation that they are comfortable with me to ask me anything, even when it isn't related to a lesson.
Cracking up!! SO glad that was you and not me! (Though as a single mom with a son, I had plenty of embarrassing moments!!)
It was a good chance to check his knowledge for understanding as well as answer questions for my younger son
Two birds with one stone!!
My last teachable moment with DS was MUCH more tame. He is home from college for Easter, and wanted to watch "Rain Man" for some reason (we'd watched it together when he was younger). He asked if the actor playing Raymond was special; I said, no. Then I asked, "That's Dustin Hoffman! Don't you know who that is?!" He didn't, which for a 20 year old is not that surprising, I suppose. He did know him from "Meet the Fockers", which, well, is a bummer. Not exactly old Dusty's best work.
I am glad you have that open of a relationship with your sons that you can have those conversations. I am a single parent to a son, now 28 years old, so I haven't had any recent teachable moments. But, boy, did we have some conversations. The one teachable moment that I had with him was when he was 13. I know that his uncle had explained the facts of life to him when he was much younger, thanks to my BIL and sister living on a hog farm. But, I didn't know what he knew or what he had learned from friends (myth vs. reality). Anyway, we were getting ready for a party before school started. He was leaving a tiny Christian school to go to a very large middle school (8th grade). We were untangling Christmas lights he was going to use to decorate the garage. He had invited friends from the school he was leaving and neighborhood friends he had only known for a short time (6 months), as well as his cousin and some church friends. We were discussing the idea that he had 50/50 girls and boys coming. That's where I just took the leap and explained everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, about the birds and the bees. The poor boy was mortified. He even shed a few tears of embarrassment. However, once we were done with the conversation he told me he was glad that I had brought up the subject because he was nervous about going to a much bigger school with students who were more knowledgeable about worldly things. After that, every year before school started we had a "refresher course" which also included talks about drugs, curfews, which of his acquaintances I felt uncomfortable around and why, money, jobs, etc. He knew my expectations. He knew the rationale why I felt the way I did. I didn't ask him to agree with me, but to respect my thoughts.
That all being said, when he's at home and the tv is on and one of those commercials comes on, I do hit the mute as they offend me. I remember the first time I ever saw a bra commercial on tv. The woman was wearing turtleneck and the bra was on over her clothes. That tells you how far things have come.
although with a 12 yo, precocious gson, I never know where conversations with or without the aid of TV commercials are going to go!
Ahh, Dustin Hoffman. Loved him in Rain Man. I can hear his tone of voice for the "uh huh" and "yeah" in certain situations. You know, those times when whomever you are listening to would never, ever dream you were hearing "Rain Man" in your head. Oh. That may be just me!!
Of course, Dustin's best, IMHO, is The Graduate. Now that's definitely my era.
but I had discussions like this all the time with both my son and daughter growing up. We'd just be sitting at the table after dinner and sometimes somehow get on the topic. The commercials weren't as explicit as they are now, as we all know! So I just brought up things on my own because I never wanted my kids to be as misinformed as I was and wanted them to just feel like it was part of life and that they could ask me anything. My dh would never be in the room when these discussions started and if he was, he'd quickly change the subject. If he came in the room, he made a quick exit he'd get so embarrassed!
My daughter was quite a few years older than my son and I remember one time when I started talking to him on something to do with sex, she said to him, "just so you know, this goes on all the time!" I thought that was a riot. Well, when my son was in 5th grade, apparently they had sex ed. classes and his teacher was a friend of mine. He told me my son was the first with his hand up to answer all the questions before they even studied the topic so I was glad of that. Now my son is 30 and feels comfortable discussing just about any topic with me. However, sometimes it's just a little TMI!!!
I never wanted my kids to be as misinformed as I was
That's me, too! In fact, they roll their eyes and can state my "disclaimer" exactly correctly- kids don't always know what they are talking about, so better to ask questions and learn from mom than find out accidentally (or incorrectly) and be embarrassed when you realize you don't know what you're talking about. But they are pretty open about things. The hardest part of it for me was using words like "penis" and "vulva" without feeling squeamish (to be honest, the word "penis" is still difficult to say- I sure didn't grow up with that word used!).
Until I had kids, I didn't realize what a HUGE part of life and TV sex was! Intimations of sex, outright statement, suggestive placement and scenes, provocative marketing.... it's all about sex!
but my favorite part of the viagra conversation? 13yo son: "why can't you just put a floppy penis in there? why does it have to be hard?" was it wrong that I equated it to trying to put a shoelace through the eyelet without having the end hard and compact?
Thanks for the laugh. I have no idea how I would have handled the "floppy penis" question. Your answer was perfect.
My parents had an open question policy. My sister once picked up a "used condom" and brought it home thinking it was a balloon of some sort. She asked my mother what it was and we got the "sex talk" right then and there.
Hideeho, ahh "The Graduate" and Dustin Hoffman. The scene at the end with him pounding the stained glass window and screaming her name.