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Old 04-14-2017, 02:40 PM
 
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I hear this so many ways, I don't even know what to think.

I was on the phone with my mother. Told her I felt like a failure because I had to pull a kid out from under a table where he'd been hiding from me and gently push him back into his desk and talk to him about why he should never hide from the teacher and why I needed him to be where I could see him. She said I felt like a failure because I should never have laid hands on a child.

Similarly, I use little touches to the arm or the head as nonverbal cues to kids to work quietly. This is something I was even praised for in an interview as it's nonverbal.

But I've also seen things that say I should never, ever touch a child under any circumstances. Articles and what my mother said.

I'm finishing up my third year and I'm just exhausted at this point.


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The "no touch" thing was drilled into me also by my undergrad university. I make it a point to never touch kids as a rule. HOWEVER, there are times when we are exiting the room and all smashed together than I will put my hand out so they don't ram into me. There are times I will do the "side hug" when they are crying or are former students. I do try to avoid full on hugging, but usually on the last day, ALL of my girls hug me goodbye. I have to admit that I am a person that people hug.

Some people absolutely HATE to be touched. For that reason alone, I avoid touching 99% of people.

Personally, I probably would have yelled at the kid to get up. I think in the future try to avoid touching for your own protection. However, I am not saying that you did anything wrong or hurt this kid. Yet, I probably wouldn't be so nice about this. The students know better.
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Old 04-15-2017, 06:54 AM
 
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We are required to watch a video that drills "no touching a student" and another one about the sexual harassment.


We had a brand new teacher who would give front hugs to all her first grade kids. She would say, "but I'm a girl and a mom!" She stopped front hugging after she watched the video.


I read your other post and really blame your administration for putting you in that spot!!

We have a CPI team that is trained to hold students and deal students who are disruptive.

We have a counselor, and several administrators on campus that we can call before it even escalates to that point.

I really encourage you to try finding another position. Nobody deserves to be treated in the manner that you have stated.

I left my previous campus (after 10 years of dealing with a mediocre admin.) and I found a really great campus.

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What a society we live in, where there is never any touching whatsoever. I often give fist bumps to kids in my classes, or sometimes I'll give a quick pat on a boy's shoulder as a way of saying good job (I'm a 6-7 man).
Of course, I know there is never to be any inappropriate touching of anyone, ever. But come on already, are my fist bumps out of line? Give me a break. If so, get me out of this profession.
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Old 05-29-2017, 05:40 PM
 
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I probably wouldn't pull a student from out of a desk. I'd either try to coax the student out or ignore them until they were ready to come out. I am careful about my interactions with students but I do hug my students, hold their hands in the hallway, etc. I always ask permission first. If I am disciplining a child, I never put my hand on them. I once worked with somebody who was a great teacher but she held on to a students arm when he was upset and trying to walk away from her and he dislocated his shoulder. Mom called cps and made a big stink over it.

You are not a failure though. Try to come up with a plan of what you will do next time. Good luck!


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