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Piggyback on "kiddos" terms of endearment
Old 11-01-2017, 06:55 PM
 
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A couple of teachers on my team and in other grade levels are always saying "I love you" to their students. Example: "Bye Mrs. Jones" "Bye Billy, I love you." "Awww, I love you Billy!"

I like a lot of my students but have only told ONE student this and truly meant it. She had cancer and I grew super close with her and her family.

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Old 11-01-2017, 07:03 PM
 
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I may say something like, "Oh, I love you guys!" to a whole group of students (I teach small groups). It seems weird/borderline inappropriate to me to say "I love you" to an individual student.
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Old 11-01-2017, 07:25 PM
 
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I had a student tell me she loved me today when we were leaving. I just said, "Right back at you."

I might tell my class a general "I love you guys," or something like that, I don't just willy nilly throw the love around.
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Old 11-01-2017, 07:50 PM
 
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I think it somewhat depends on the age. If one of my kinder or 1st grade students says "I love you", I'll say it back, but if a 4th or 5th grade says it is much more uncomfortable and I probably wouldn't say it back. (Never had an older kid say it though).
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Old 11-01-2017, 09:01 PM
 
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Occasionally, when my 8th grade students are walking out, I'll say, "Love you. . ." But it is kind of an experiment to see what they'll do. It really means "I care about you." or "Be safe until I see you again."

I guess I "love" them in a certain way. But I'd feel uncomfortable dwelling on it, or making it too, um, personal.


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Old 11-02-2017, 03:53 AM
 
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I say with a smile and eye contact, "Thank you, ___! That makes me feel really special." Keeps the boundary, still a positive interaction.
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I never tell students I love them.
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I will tell them that I care about them, but not love. Love is something that is reserved for family and VERY close friends.
I'm not comfortable with that level of intimacy in the classroom.
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Old 11-02-2017, 05:09 PM
 
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Didn't we just have this conversation?
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My take
Old 11-02-2017, 05:50 PM
 
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I do not believe that love is something that is reserved for just family and friends. I do love my kids, even on those days when I just wanna smack them for their sassiness.

I have been teaching for over 20 years, and my fourth graders will on occasion call out, "Bye Mrs. Sassy! I love you!" and I'll say it right back to them. I've heard it from both boys and girls, and from kiddos that I've had that have come back to visit me. I truly don't think anything of it.

I don't say it to them first, unless it's like what Haley23 suggested, but I'm not going to not say it if one of my kids says it to me.
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Old 11-02-2017, 07:18 PM
 
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I teach second grade. I tell my kids I love them all the time. And I do.

I wouldn't say it to older kids though. That'd be weird.


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Some Never Hear It
Old 11-03-2017, 12:48 PM
 
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I think I heard that thing once where some students don't have anyone talk to them all day. I think the point of it was that teachers should try to speak to every student on their way in the room. I see over 100 students a day. I do stand at my door but at times I do get like 30 seconds to run (yes, run) to the bathroom or someone is talking to me and I don't greet everyone. I try because I know that some of my students do just blend into the scenery.

If a kid says to me, "You know you love me!" or something like that, I might say, "Yes, I do." I've also said joking around "Love ya too" after a kid says something. I think it would be weird to tell an individual middle school student I love you in an odd way...However, I know we have some very nurturing teachers who probably do say things like this. Then, we have some who are hostile, so I'll take the lovey dovey ones any day
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I have never heard that said
Old 11-04-2017, 11:33 AM
 
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in school in all of my years! It would seem odd to me. Maybe I am a meanie...lol, but seriously, I have never heard any kids or teachers say, "I love you!"
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Old 11-04-2017, 05:18 PM
 
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Am I a bad teacher if I never say that?

However, I do try to narrate the positive behaviors, whole-group behaviors, small-group, progress, etc. But the saccharine terms of endearment just aren't me (and feel a bit inappropriate.)
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