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What do you wish parents would start
Old 11-04-2017, 11:48 AM
 
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doing again? My list for the moment:
1. Make their kids breakfast!
2. Read with their kids.
3. Not worry if Johnny is unhappy because he doesn't want to do something. Be a parent and make them do it anyways!
4. Teach their kids that," Sit down" is not a question that requires or wants an answer.
5. Teach their kid that when an adult says to do something, they do not mean , "When you feel like getting around to it." It is not negotiable either.

I think I have the mouthiest class I have had in a long time. I know a lot of the parents w/ the mouthiest kids because I have had their sibs in the past. It is like the kids are totally unaware even that it is not cool to communicate like they do. They will learn or I may not survive the yr....lol


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Replace their children’s glasses/get their children glasses when needed.

Get their children dental/healthcare when it is needed.

Teach children to tie shoelaces.

Remove lice.
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Make them go to bed early enough to get a good night's sleep.

Make them go outside and play.

Give them chores and responsibilities.

Keep their private lives private. Parents shouldn't act immoral (whether in talk or behavior) in front of their children.

Act like an adult who is a parent that is modeling civilized behavior.
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ohhhhhhhh! I am itching already! Yuck! I think that would be at the top of my list too if it was a problem here. I know it is psychological, but that 4 letter word makes my skin crawl. 1 of my own kids caught it yrs ago. I had never seen it before then. We ironed the carpet, washed everything, and shut down his bedroom and bathroom for a month and it did not come back. I was fortunate enough to have the $$ at the time to buy him new clothes and bedding. We were very lucky too that no1 else in the house got it.
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limit their screen time

let them have down time to just play and be creative (no after school activities every night)

read with them

sit down together for family dinner, just interact and talk about their day, with NO technology allowed


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limit their screen time

let them have down time to just play and be creative (no after school activities every night)

read with them

sit down together for family dinner, just interact and talk about their day, with NO technology allowed

give kids chores and don't criticize if it isn't up to "standard" (unless, of course, they really did to a lousy job).
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Act like an adult who is a parent that is modeling civilized behavior. 100% agree
ELSpeech- Screen time limited- I sooo agree. I wish parents would say you can have 15 minutes of screen time AFTER you have done ____.
Also, chores are great too!
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Old 11-04-2017, 12:08 PM
 
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-Have conversations with their kids rather than plugging them in

-give them experiences, take them places, even if itís just to the local park or museums on free days. Nothing replaces background knowledge and experiences.

-say no and give them boundaries. Donít be afraid to parent.

-Read to your child
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Say no and stick to it.
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-say no and give them boundaries. Donít be afraid to parent.
This is so true to say no when they need to and stick w/ it. They were selling baked goods after school 1 night recently and 1 of my moms told her son, "No, We are going to have dinner soon." He screamed and hollered so loud I could hear them down the hall and came out to see what would happen. I was so proud of the parent as she removed the kid from the school UNTIL.....2 minutes later, she was back inside buying him what he wanted.


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Old 11-04-2017, 12:32 PM
 
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Stop making excuses for their behaviour.

Teach them that it is impolite to interrupt other people's conversations (unless it is an emergency).

Say no.

Not be afraid to let them play outside.

Walk places instead of always driving.

Have them write thank you notes for gifts.

I just saw teaching them to tie shoelaces. Ugh. Velcro has its place but it has definitely made it too easy to ignore this basic life skill.
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Excuses and interrupting are 2 I have the worst time w/ this yr. For some reason, the kids around here do still write thank you notes which is pretty amazingly cool w/ all of the other stuff they get away w/.
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I teach kindergarten and I have my children write thank you letters (usually together as a class on chart paper) to other teachers or volunteers who have helped us out.

I also write personal thank you cards for every Christmas and end of year gift. It's amazing how many parents thank me for the thank you and say they need to get their children to do this.
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That is great modeling for the kids! I do it too w/ gifts and special helpers. It amazes me how the kids I have sent $$$ as graduation gifts in the last 15 yrs, I have gotten thank you letters from every single one. It still shocks me when I get cards in the mail. I remember having to practically sit on 1 of my own kids to write them! When we opened holiday gifts from relatives, I let them open 1 and play around w/ it, but before they could open another, that thank you note had to be written!
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Old 11-04-2017, 02:16 PM
 
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Don't be your kids best friend

Use the word 'no', mean it and enforce it

Get your kid a flip phone instead of a smart phone - those kids do really stupid things with their smart phones.

Regular bedtime, regular meals, get to school on time

Manners!
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I agree on all! You are so right about phones. I am glad they weren't around when my kids were growing up, but a flip phone is a great alternative to the smart phone. I have known quite a few very nice girls who have done very stupid things on snapchat and even facebook. I think most kids are getting smarter about FB from what I can tell.
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Old 11-04-2017, 02:31 PM
 
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Don't argue with your kids. No means no. No discussion.
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I think most kids are getting smarter about FB from what I can tell.
There are very few kids on FB. So yeah, that's definitely smarter.
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Old 11-04-2017, 07:50 PM
 
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Give consequences that actually matter. For lack of a better word, because I don't mean this in the physical sense, consequences should be "painful." It's a good think if your kid is sad/upset/angry about the consequence.
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SHOES!

Every year, I have at least one student remove their shoe to reveal a blister and or bleeding.
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Old 11-05-2017, 06:46 AM
 
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Let them fail at things. It builds resiliency, accountability, and problem solving skills.

Eat dinner as a family ( and you have to sit the entire time, not eat a bite, wander around, come back and eat a bite, then repeat).
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Old 11-05-2017, 08:59 AM
 
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Keltic: I'd take back breakfast to have parents : {Let them fail at things.
It builds resiliency, accountability, and problem solving skills.}
Enabling is a huge problem in our area. Some parents spend a lot of time
"rescuing" their kids from any consequence.

Summer- Not having proper fitting shoes is sad too! Seriously, where I live
if a kid did not have decent shoes and I mentioned it, my room would be
filled w/ hovering people with new shoes the next day/ week..They sound like they are more needed
where you are.I wish I could send you some of them.The shoes as well as the parents.
PK6Teeacher..Exactly! Consequences need to be serious enough to make the kid
think before doing it again.!!!
Zia: Laughing! You are right! Many still have it here,
but it does not appear to be used like it used to be.
Linda- for sure that 1 is on my list. No means no..no discussion needed or appreciated!
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Check your kid's folder. Please!
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I wish parents would...
Old 11-05-2017, 03:32 PM
 
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My top five:

- read to kids at bedtime
- have a bedtime
- check homework for accuracy
- limit electronic time
- be the parent
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Old 11-05-2017, 04:12 PM
 
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Make reading daily a priority
Teach them to tie their shoes
Have their children go to bed at a reasonable time
Make sure they are prepared for school... breakfast... snack.... jacket...
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Old 11-07-2017, 05:27 AM
 
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I wish parents would start parenting their kids again and not friending them.
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Just listen to them...
Old 11-07-2017, 05:44 AM
 
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So many parents tune the kids out because they are too busy and overwhelmed themselves...They let the kids plug in because it gives them the time to plug in too--or watch TV or visit with friends or just attend to the cooking, cleaning, driving, ball games, work, etc. in their own lives.

The kids come to school so desperate for attention from an adult. They ramble and ramble and tell every little thing because they have no one to talk to at home.
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