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Old 12-06-2017, 02:38 AM
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I think this is the year that I will have mine

When I turned 41 last year- I finally felt like my age and that there was no turning back.
When I turned 42 this year I was ready to quietly accept defeat that I was getting older.
Until I met the new teachers at my new school this year.
Got invited to happy hour a couple weeks ago. Found out the bubbly, cheerful, absolutely adorable new ELA teacher is only 20 years old. and the others are 21, 22, 23. Im sitting there drinking beers and having a nice time with... KIDS!!!!!
That is when it has hit me. I AM old now. I AM that person who no longer has the rest of their life in front of them waiting to explore it and live it and be free and carefree.
Sigghhhhh....I am now the "adult" and it is a very hard pill to swallow and to accept defeat. You can't go to happy hour anymore without constantly being reminded of all these youngins and thinking back to when you were "that" age.
Yes, I think this will be my year for it, and it did not happen quietly


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Old 12-06-2017, 02:44 AM
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I agree with you on some points. I was always the youngest everywhere. Graduated at 17, then again at 20. Youngest faculty member at several schools. Then it happened. Today I am THE oldest at my school, and happy about it. I'm in DROP, as you know. That much closer to retirement and spending time with those I really care about.

Preferably at the beach.

I don't have to wonder or worry so much about what others think. I can set my own schedule and eat chili dogs for supper every night. If I want. I can spend my money on things I want, not always on things I need. And I can choose friends wisely, not always something I did before.

You, my friend, are a wonderful adult. Embrace it and stop going out with those children!!
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Old 12-06-2017, 03:45 AM
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It seems like just yesterday I was the youngest, just relocated, couldn't cook teacher in the building. Now, I am the oldest teacher in the building. It does feel a little sad. However, looking ahead to possibly retiring at the end of this year does feel good. Also, I go to a book club and a water aerobics class where they call me the "young one". So that's nice!
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OMG! You're only 41.
Old 12-06-2017, 05:06 AM
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You're just a baby. Repeat this to yourself:

"I am not old. I will not accept that I don't have my whole life ahead of me. "

Then get out there and do what is fun for you!!!! You still have lots of great, and I do mean great years ahead of you.
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That is great that you have younger friends
Old 12-06-2017, 05:15 AM
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If they are inviting you to happy hour then enjoy life with young people. They must see your younger side. Absorb their youthful energy while you are with them and exude your more mature wisdom for them to take in as well. Sounds like a win win situation to me rather than a mid life crisis.

Focus on enjoying life at every age rather than lamenting that you have reached mid life. It is better than the alternative, right?

42 sounds young to me as I am 61.


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Old 12-06-2017, 05:37 AM
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I'm 41 and I don't feel old! It's a frame of mind. Which is just another way to say I'm stupid immature.
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Old 12-06-2017, 05:41 AM
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I AM that person who no longer has the rest of their life in front of them waiting to explore it and live it and be free and carefree.
But...this is EXACTLY how I feel since retirement. I am old and I feel like I have a huge chunk of my life in front of me “waiting to explore it and live it and be free and carefree.” And, best of all, I have the time and resources to do it. I embrace old age.

I understand an unusual very young person, but how do you have so many very young people on your staff? Here, most are 23 fresh out of teacher school.
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Old 12-06-2017, 06:09 AM
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Age is just a number. I do not consider 41 to be middle aged. I am 60 and enjoy hanging out with people of all ages. I do remember being one of the oldest teachers at school before I retired at 58, however.
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I don't know what you're talking about...
Old 12-06-2017, 06:40 AM
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I'm 52 and I'm not old so how can you be...Impossible, I say!
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Old 12-06-2017, 07:42 AM
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I am 54. I am happier, healthier (physically and emotionally), and more confident than ever before. You couldn't pay me to go back. Embrace NOW.


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Old 12-06-2017, 08:35 AM
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You are not old. You are entering your "Sage Years". Think about how you've grown in wisdom since your 20s.
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Old 12-06-2017, 08:40 AM
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Youre not even close to old. youre still a baby. you still have your whole life ahead of you and you can make positive chpices to do anything you want with your life. choose to have a good attitude. i am older than you and i am still quite young inside. my grandmother was 94 and said she still felt 19. its all about attitude.
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Ha! I have had several mid-life crises:
Old 12-06-2017, 09:05 AM
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One between ages 37-39, when I gave birth to my two children. One at about age 50, when I began menopause. One when I moved to Oregon with my ex-DH, and he got addicted to Ambien, which led to our breakup. And now that I have moved to my hometown in NY, I am going through my second adolescence!

You are 42! Oh, how I would love to be 42 again. But then, I'm healthy, active, and in love at 67, so not really complaining!

Just relax and enjoy your relative maturity in relation to these newbie teachers. They will look to you for advice and tips on effective teaching. You DO have the rest of your life in front of you. I am living proof of that. Two years ago, I was demolished. Now I am whole, enthusiastic, and better than ever. I started exercising, got fit, regularly do kickboxing, zumba, and various cardio circuit training exercises, plus yoga.

Age is only a number! You could live another 50 years, longer than you have already been here. I go out dancing every Saturday night and there are tons of folks over 60 out there on the dance floor. One of my friends is 75 and she dances EVERY dance. Lighten up! You are still young!
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Old 12-06-2017, 09:20 AM
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FLteachESE, oh nonsense! 42 isn't old! I'm your age as well and I'm honestly not just saying this because I'm the same age. I sure don't feel it or look it! I'm serious! Sure, I see the "youngins" out there today who are fully grown adults, driving and whatnot who are younger, but I just don't feel like I'm some old person.
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Old 12-06-2017, 10:04 AM
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Like others said, you still have a lot of life to live. I am 49 and happier than I was when I was in my 20ís.

How do you have a 20 year old teacher on your staff. Did she graduate from high school early?
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Old 12-06-2017, 01:47 PM
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I’m 48 and the second oldest teacher in my building. I am fine with it. When I see those young, cute, energetic newbies, I also think about where I was at that age. I was not totally confident, because I was still trying to figure out myself as the teacher, classroom management, I wasn’t dating, so that was another element to worry about. So yes, they look like they have their stuff together, but think about your first few years of teaching and the huge changes you went through. All that is behind you!

Enjoy 42! Those young ones enjoy your company and you enjoy them. Have a great time!

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Old 12-06-2017, 02:09 PM
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You are just hanging out with the wrong people! Come over here and hang out with 58 y/o me and you will feel young again!

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Old 12-06-2017, 04:30 PM
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You are not old, just wiser. The younger teachers at work call me their work mom because I give great advice. Iím not the oldest teacher at 51, but in the top five. I know I definitely donít act my age either. I donít feel my age and it doesnít bother me.
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Old 12-06-2017, 04:46 PM
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I am 48 and the happiest Iíve ever been! Iíve been teaching 25 years, have a great family and love my co workers, young and old!

Age is just a number. You couldnít pay me to be in my 20s again. I made a lot of dumb decisions back then!

Embrace your ďseasonedĒ life! 😂
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Old 12-06-2017, 05:22 PM
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I thoroughly enjoyed my mid-life crisis.

At 43 I started dating, got tattoos, took vacations alone . . . it was a good time. I even dated some considerably younger guys. (Like 15 years younger.)

Only three people at work are older than I am. I've been teaching longer than some of our teachers have been alive. My work friends are all younger. A few were my former students.

No way I'd go back to my younger years. I'm liking my late 40's.
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Old 12-06-2017, 05:40 PM
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I'm 30 and I'm the youngest teacher in my building with most people 10-15 years older than me. My youngest teammate is 44. I eat lunch every day with a group of women who are in their late 40's/early 50's. I have thought about what will happen when all my friends retire and I have at least 15 years left! Sometimes I wish I was in their shoes...it's all about perspective!

BTW, you are not old!
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Old 12-07-2017, 02:30 AM
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Thank you for sharing your perspectives. It is all in how you have lived your life so far and where you stand and where you want to be.
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Old 12-07-2017, 05:03 AM
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It is all in how you have lived your life so far and where you stand and where you want to be.
Ohhh, yeah, if you're not happy with your life, that could definitely color how you feel about your age. But it's not your age...it's your life. You can't change your age, but you can change your life! Hang in there.
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